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Hello One Love Family,
I wanted to share with all of you my visit this weekend with Jeanne and Dai.
First I want to thank all of you for your continued support and prayers. I check on this website at least a couple of times a day, and I know Jeanne does too. It certainly takes me through a range of emotions, from smiles to tears, inspiration and despair, sadness to joy, and definitely faith and hope.
Patricia, dear girl…… to you and your family know that there is love in this world. With love there is healing. You brought your love to us and we send our love to you….. If there is anything you need you let us know.
Before I left to go up there I was getting some phone calls from family. I have done the same thing at times. We get all fired up and we want Dai to be in the best place possible. He should be in Stanford! He should be at UCSF! He should not be in a nursing home! He should be in the oxygen chamber! He needs his skull flap put back in, NOW!
Well, if it were only so simple as saying, this is what he needs, and then he is magically there, wouldn’t that be wonderful.
Once I got up there and sat with my sister Jeanne, I realized how it is not just that easy. Who do we call? Is the insurance going to cover it? I don’t know, do you know? I don’t know. One Dr. says he has to be infection free for 6 weeks before they will put the bone flap back in. Another Dr. says it is 4 weeks. It has now been 1 week with no infection. Let us all pray that in 3 weeks he will get his bone flap back in. That the surgery will go well, and he will have no complications. Let us all pray that whatever it is that is plaguing him now, GOES AWAY!
I can tell you that the nurses that are taking care of him at the hospital are WONDERFUL!
I did pose the question to a nurse asking if we wanted him to go to somewhere such as UCSF, what would we do? She was on it immediately, asking for information and steering us in the right direction. Hopefully it will work.
I have such mixed emotions at this time. Dai looks better than the last time I was up, which was a couple of months ago. I don’t want to go into details, but I have certainly noticed differences each time that I have the opportunity to see him, all for the better.
On Sunday I had the opportunity to spend a couple of hours with him alone. He talked to me again. This time it was quieter, and it was a bit of a mumble. But he did tell me again that he loves me, and he said “hot” a couple of times. He was sweating a great deal. For those of you that have seen him on stage, you know how he can sweat! I started with a cold wet wash cloth, wiping up the sweat from his face and around his neck. He would turn his head depending on which side I was wiping, so I could get it all. It was obvious that he was enjoying the feel of the cold cloth. (well, sometimes I actually wondered if I was just annoying the hell out of him!) After a while, I switched to a full sized dry towel to be able to keep him dry.
There are a couple of things I know for sure. This man is LOVED! By his family, by his friends, by his fans. He is loved greatly, because he loves greatly. And…. whatever happens, is not going to happen quickly. We have to practice patience. What IS going to happen? I don’t know…. Do you know?
I know he needs the best care possible and that is not necessarily happening. I know that there are all sorts of complications, financial, legal, etc. etc….
I know that this is not simple. I know that I love my family and my heart breaks every day.
So I started writing this Monday, and today is Thursday. Dai is out of ICU but still in a high monitored setting in the hospital. I don’t know if anyone has explained what is going on. His breathing, pulse and heart rate skyrocket. They call them “episodes”. Why is this happening? I don’t know. They don’t really know. Some different medications are being used to try and help him. I am frustrated and seem to be walking around constantly on the verge of tears. But, like Ming and Dai, I don’t cry. I would like to, but I just can’t seem to do it anymore.
Thank you again to all of you that are making it happen! There is some really great stuff coming up to help raise funds so we can get him the help that he needs.
I’m thinking of the saying, “it takes a village”. Well, we have people around the entire world. It is going to take all of us to make this happen, and we are so blessed and grateful that you are all in this with us.
Keep the faith
Much Love
Aunt Renée
Thank you Aunt Renee for this update! I have been anxiously waiting for news since Chi’s last got taken into ICU, checking this site several times a day looking for news. Yes Chi is loved, also by us/his fans. Chi means a lot to so many people and I know I personally aspire to try being a better person. Chi and his fighting warrior spirit inspires me to try to be better. Also, whenever I feel myself struggling with something, I think of Chi and how many battlers he has fought and won over the last 7 months. Can you imagine that today it is 7 months since his accident? When it feels like things are taking a long time and you get frustrated, think back over these 7 months and see how much has changed… Even the fact that Chi speaks a little now…
It humbles me.
I wanted to send some love from England and also worldwide love – lots of love and support for all of you.
Know that you are in our minds daily, as Chi is in our daily prayers.
One love – as long as it takes.
YES WE HAVE SEEN CHANGES IN THE 7 MONTHS TOO…I REALLY LIKE WHAT PRAY FOR CHI 09 SAYS, BECAUSE I HAVE ALWAYS HAD A HEART BUT ALOT OF THE TIMES MY EGO AND SELF GET IN THE WAY, AND SINCE I HAVE BEEN AROUND RENEE AND KNOWN THE CHENG FAMILY AND WHAT CHI IS REALLY ABOUT, I TOO HAVE GONE OUT OF MY WAY TO HELP OTHERS,LIKE GIVE SPARE CHANGE TO HOMELESS PEOPLE CAUSE I KNOW I CAN MAKE MORE…AND NOT JUDGING THEM FOR BEING HOMELESS..ALSO WHEN I AM HAVING A SHITTY DAY I STOP AND THINK OF CHI,AND I THANK GOD THAT I AM ABLE TO GET UP AND WALK AROUND…AND I FEEL THAT CHI WILL BE ABLE TO DO THE SAME SOMEDAY..ITS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT I TAKE FOR GRANTED,AND WHEN I DO I AUTOMATICALLY THINK OF DAI (CHI)..I HAVE ALSO SAID THINGS LATELY OUT OF FRUSTRATION BUT LIKE RENEE SAID THE NURSES ARE DOING WHAT THEY CAN…JEANNE AND THE FAMILY STRUGGLE EVRYDAY WONDERING WHAT THEY CAN DO BETTER, BUT YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN…AND GINA IS SWAMMPED WITH ALL SHE IS TRYING TO DO,ALONG WITH EVERYONE WHO LOVES CHI, AND SOMETIMES THATS ALL WE CAN DO IS OUR BEST….BUT SINCE CHI’S ACCIDENT I HAVE TURNED TO GOD MORE THAN I EVER HAVE IN MY LIFE…DAI YOU ARE MAKING US ALL STRONGER, AND WE ALL LOVE AND FIGHT FOR YOU IN WHATEVER WAY WE CAN….IT GETS HARD WHEN YOU SEE THE FAMILY HURTING THRU ALL THIS TOO…AND I DO PRAY FOR THEM,,,,,THEY ARE SUPER PEOPLE,AND I WANT TO BE THE WAY THEY ARE…..TUFF…. BE SAFE SMOKEY
You know Aunt Renee, sometimes you gotta cry. There is no shame in that, everyone has their weaknesses and breaking points. I cried like a baby the night I said goodbye to my mom and sister and family before I left for here. The beer probably helped, but I could not tell you the last time I cried before that. I think it happened because there was a lot building up inside of me, like fear of coming here and leaving my 4 month old son and my wife for a year and so on and so on. But the trigger was seeing my family cry and knowing why they were crying. I knew they were scared that that might be the last time they saw me. It made me sad knowing that would be on there minds until I come home. It still sucks. So I cried too. It felt weird because in the military, you are supposed to be all strong, both physically and mentally. You kinda change after a while in here, lose some of that sad, emo shit. You are just trained to keep going, not to quit, and sometimes you just don’t have time to be all sad. Like here. I talked to Gina about this a few weeks ago…stuff happens here and you need to act fast. If you stop and think or are just like, “Oh shit”, you put your buddies and yourself in danger. So you just go. After so long, you start becoming a little robot like. Like things that would make you mad or sad just has no effect on you anymore. I mean, it’s kinda good to be like that here, but when you get home and are out of this enviroment and with your family, that is when it becomes a problem. But, WTF am I talking about…rambling. I guess what I am trying to say is, crying or showing emotion is good. People shouldn’t hide it. I mean, if you don’t cry or whatever, it doesn’t mean you don’t care, but if you feel it coming, let it out. It made me feel better after I finished my weep-a-thon that one night. And now, after being here for almost a year…when I hear emotion or sadness coming from my family through the phone, I get mad! Not at them, just mad that they are upset. It’s frustrating knowing they hurt because of me sometimes. I am sure Dai feels the same way inside when he see’s or hears or feels the sadness…he just wants to wake up and say to you guys, “I am fine, let’s get the fuck outta here already!” I am praying that happens soon too! It will though, this experience I am having from this website and all the people who are a part of this, has given me a lot of hope. Not just that Dai is going to pull through, that’s a given…but just in life period. I mean, all these stories and positive vibes I get from here, it makes the days better. And like PrayForChi09 said, I have been checking the site a few times a day to see an update about the latest ICU “episode” and am glad to hear he is out again, now let’s all get our prayers and good Chi vibes out and send them straight to NorCal and get this man better! Love to you all…
NO QUIT CHI!!!
Matt
“And…. whatever happens, is not going to happen quickly. We have to practice patience.”
One of my favorite Bible verses is… James 1:4
But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
Thanks Aunt Renée for the awesome reminder… We want Chi perfect and entire… Praying today for you my brother!
Thank you SOOO much Aunt Renee!!! You have put my mind at ease. And thank you Gina for posting it!!! I am so happy that Chi is out of ICU!!! It will get better, we all know that he is a strong person and will pull through this.
laura
Thanks Aunt Renee, the fans all round the world appreciate this info – the important thing is Chi is doing better, slowly.
ONE LOVE FOR CHI!
Donna xo
Aunt Renee,
You know, every time I picture Chi in my mind I picture him better than you have described. Maybe it is wishful thinking, maybe I am naive. Maybe that is where my hope comes from, but I was thinking about it and I will continue to picture him this way. In fact I will visualize him even healthier, stronger than he is because, along with prayer, visualizations are such fierce warriors in and of themselves. I feel for Chi and the whole family. I know how frustrating it can be. The not knowing. Karma has a way of working itself out just exactly right and I believe that Chi has phenomenal karma. He will get exactly what he needs when he needs it. I know it’s cliche’ but the creator doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle, as painful as it may be. Chi is an admirable spirit warrior and I too think of him when the going gets tough or when I feel frustrated with life. I know so many others on this site feel the same way. If Chi can move so many others with his fighting spirit I have no other choice than to believe that he will come through this experience to continue to be a voice of love, a teacher and a master. Though I believe in miracles I think Chi will be more than that. I think he is bringing people together because he gets life and all of its hardships and sorrows. He understands that we are all the same and should all be treated with dignity and respect. That is rare to find in such a young soul. He is teaching us all how to love without saying a word and that speaks volumes about his character. I know your well of tears is empty, but the creator will fill it up again. He won’t allow you to hide from your emotions because when you do that you hide your truth. The tears will come again to relieve you from your pain for a while. Know that my heart breaks for you and the family, but not once has it ever made me feel like Chi won’t come through this. Not once. Until then we will wait.
Sending lots of love to you and your family.
Your sister in peace,
RC
Thank you so much, Aunt Renee for the update. I, too have been checking in when I can to see if there was any news, and was moved to tears by seeing his is out of ICU again. God bless him, and your wonderful family for all of the battles you and he have had to fight. For all of the battles won, and for those to come, I know he will give you strength to stay the course. Yes, our brother Chi IS LOVED. God bless him.
thank you for your continued support to my family & I. We love your family like we are one. This painful, life changing experience of such great loss has brought with it so much beauty and hope. I understand that one cannot exist without the other, and continuously seek the lessons to be found. Gina and I spoke about how we wonder if sometimes we are not meant to know the reasons for such things. I struggle with that, but it is what it is, I suppose. All I know is I miss my little brother, and am grieving yet another devastating loss in my life. For whatever reason, his work here was done, and it was his time. I must find peace with that, and do find peace in the fact that he himself is in peace.
I am praying and hoping that Chi has a peaceful weekend, and that his warrior spirit continues to fight the good fight.
Thanks again, Aunt Renee. Much love to you, Jeanne & the Cheng family.
(and LOVE to all the rest of you, too!)
much/onelove for chi
Matt,, A Mother’s Love is forever! No matter how old you are or where you go in this world, Moms just worry, sometimes more than other times. We are strong and can tolerate alot, the older we get, Ha-ha!! we have the faith of God behind us and the Holy Spirit and Hope ahead of us! You keep on doing the great job you are doing, Matt!! Love ya….. NO QUIT CHI, Praying for you–always.
WOW RC THOSE WORDS ARE SO RIGHT ON,DAI IS GETTING THE KARMA BACK TO HIM FROM EVERYONE CHECKING OUT THIS SITE AND PRYING FOR HIM,THE PEOPLE FIGHTING FOR HIM,CAUSE HE IS A TRUE WARRIOR,WHEN IT COMES TO HELPING OTHERS,AND JUST BEING A GREAT MAN…..THESE POSTS’S OF POSITIVE VIBES REALLY HELP THE WHOLE FAMILY IN THIS TIME OF WAITING PATIENTLY FOR DAI TO LOOK UP AND SAY I AM READY TO GO HOME .
LETS F***IN GET OUT OF HERE…
SMOKEY
PATRICIA YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL ,AND GOD BLESS YOU , YOU ARE A FIGHTER LIKE CHI (DAI).KEEP ON KEEPIN ON…WHEN MY BUDDY WAS IN A COMA (FROM A RACING ACCIDENT,WE WERE RACING TOGETHER THAT NIGHT,HE WAS BEHIND ME AND I DID NOT SEE THE WRECK,LUCKILY).HE WAS COMA TOSE FOR 9 YRS. AND HE SHOWED NO SIGNS OF RECOVERY FROM DAY ONE,SO WHEN WE SEEN CHI (DAI) AND THE STATE THAT HE IS IN I KNEW RIGHT AWAY THERE IS ALOT OF HOPE FOR HIM TO RECOVER, AND THROUGH ALL OF THE PEOPLE PRAYING FOR HIM AND HOW STRONG WILLED HE IS , I FEEL HE WILL COME OUT OF THIS… SO WHEN I HEARD MARCO DID NOT MAKE IT I THAUGHT RIGHT AWAY HE IS IN PEACE AND WILL NOT EVER HAVE TO GO THROUGHT WHAT MY BUDDY DID,(ALOT OF PAIN AND SUFFERING FOR 9 YRS.) ITS STILL HARD TO ACCEPT DEATH, BUT I TRUELY KNOW THERE ARE WORSE THINGS THEN DEATH…..BE STRONG YOU HAVE ALOT OF PEOPLE TO HELP YOU IN YOUR TIME OF HEARTACHE,AND THE WHOLE CHENG FAMILY IS YOUR FAMILY, CHI MADE US ALL ONE…………..BE SAFE SMOKEY
lol that will be one of the greatest f*****g days!
I’m just another one of Chi’s many fans who thinks about him all the time. I pray for him as often as possible, and I wanted you to know that.
Love,
Noreen
Just wanted to let you know that even though I don’t post comments often, I pray for strength, comfort, & healing for Chi and family daily. I’m sure there are many fans out there that we haven’t heard from who are silently doing the same. All my love…
Thanks for your post Aunt Renée, i love reading the little tidbits about Chi like his head moves when you were wiping him. It shows our man is there, somewhere, almost ready to come back to us.
Aunt Jeanne
Thank you so much for taking the time to update us on Chi, I appreciated it! Please send my love to the family and know that Pennsylvania fans are praying for them every day. Hugs, Stephanie
Love you Chi!